This week we took a look into the different structures of remarried families. There are 24 different types of marriages! Each different combination creates a different outcome, and may be incredibly complicated as the network of relationships expands.
The most common reasons people give for their divorce are “irreconcilable differences.” Meaning that you and your spouse’s basic differences make it impossible to stay married. For some couples, arguments over child discipline, politics, finances, or religion are severe enough to push a wedge in the marriage. There are many strong grounds for divorce, but an interesting study of divorced couples and married couples found that the majority of them reported having 10 areas of incompatibility. There is no found correlation of martial happiness and shared hobbies. Those differences are not the problem, but it is what we do with those incompatibilities that troubles may arise.
One of my all-time favorite films is “Yours, Mine, and Ours.” It is the story of a couple who remarry, with a new combined total of 18 children! It is sweet to see everyone learn to adjust to one another and their new family unit. Blending families can be so difficult. There are so many outcomes and challenges of children from divorced or blended families.
Two years following divorce, 70 percent of couples believe they could have saved the marriage…and should have. Divorce is not something to take lightly, it has lasting effects on all members of the family, especially children.
I hope we can all learn to continually develop great compassion for those who have undergone divorce, especially children.